One of the most common questions I get from my clients is how to talk to their kids—and how to get the kids through a divorce. It’s an emotional and scary time, and the last thing any of us wants is to say or do the “wrong” thing.  If you Google “what to tell the kids about divorce,” you’ll find experts with academic advice—but my clients still wonder how real people work through these very difficult issues in real life. So I turned to my closest friends who are children of divorce for their help.